Day 1 – Discuss your current relationship
Today is the first day of the 30 Day Blog Challenge. Time to get posting!
On Day 1 of the blog challenge, the topic is to discuss my current relationship. Relationships are wonderful. They can have their ups and downs. With this in mind, I won’t delve into the DEEP stuff of my relationship. Even though I write and own a blog I do believe that some things are private. So I’ll tell you all about how we got together.
Let’s start off with stating my current relationship status. What is my current relationship status? I’m married.
I met my husband when I was working for Olive Garden. I will never forget the day we met.
Here’s how our love story started …
I was headed home from a weekend away of volunteering. [I could write a whole post about the place where I used to volunteer … and I just might do that at some point.] My sister and I stopped by my work, Olive Garden, on our way home. Normally I wouldn’t have stop by work when I didn’t need to be there, but I needed to go over my schedule with my general manager (GM). I was a certified trainer and I had a new training class that week. Generally I liked where I worked, so I didn’t mind having to swing by. When I got there another manager told me that my GM was over at the “family table” with my new recruits. He said that I should stop by to say hello. So I walked over to say hi and introduce myself.
I noticed that my GM and another man were having trouble with the restaurant’s television and VCR. They were trying to get it to work, so they could show the newbies their orientation videos. My GM introduced me to him. “Hey Kristin, this is Will. He’s a manager from Framingham who is going to be helping us out.”
While Will and my GM were trying to get the unit to work, I made some snarky remark about the TV. I asked if they had done some completely obvious trick that anyone would think of first. Will turned and looked at me. There was this look on his face that I will never forget. It was a mix of annoyance and “Who does this chick think she is?”. He let me know that they had tried that trick.
I don’t think I made the best first impression. But to be honest, he didn’t make the best first impression on me either. I can still remember thinking … He’s cute, but what a jerk.
Let’s get past the first impressions …
Not long after that Will started working at our restaurant permanently. I got to know him more and found out that he wasn’t a jerk. He was actually a really nice guy and a damn good manager. Will had this great way of making me laugh and smile. It made going to work so much more enjoyable. And the fact that I was really attracted to him was a bonus.
At this time, I was seriously dating someone else. AND … Olive Garden has a very strong “no fraternization” policy. Managers and employees couldn’t be friends outside of the restaurant, let alone date. So the thought of me being with him was pushed into the back of my mind.
Time goes by …
As time went on, I watched as he “dated” two other ladies that I knew. Neither were actual relationships, but a few dates here and there. The only reason I knew about was because both ladies knew that I had a crush on Will, and felt like telling me that they dated him. I wasn’t completely innocent here either. Will had to sit there as I got out of my serious relationship and then jumped into another one. The fact that Will was my boss and that there was no way we could date made us both never dare to think about it happening.
All of my friends knew that I had a massive crush on Will. Even being in other relationships, I still had feelings for him. The only reason I didn’t act on them was because he was my boss. Two of my really good friends decided to take matters into their own hands. Both, on separate occasions, went to Will and told him about what a great girlfriend I would be. They told him that he should date me. I was so mortified that they did this, but also intrigued to know what he had said. All he did was smile and laugh and not give them any hope. I have to commend them for trying.
Let’s jump to the fall of 2009 …
Summer/fall of 2009, Will was transferred to another restaurant. He was sent to be the culinary manager there, since he did such a great job at the one that I worked in. One of the friend who talked to Will before actually transferred to the same restaurant. She went as a bartender and certified trainer. When she saw Will there, the first words out of her mouth were that he and I could date now. He wasn’t directly my manager, so we could be together.
In November, I was headed back to Maine to volunteer for the weekend. I had stopped by work to get tips or my check or something. To my surprise, Will was there helping out. With losing Will at our restaurant, I know they were short staffed until they got a new fully trained culinary manager in there. When he saw me he asked what I was doing there. I said that I need to pick something up from the office. So, he and I walked into the office. We made small talk about the new restaurant and my going to volunteer. While we were in there, I had mentioned that we should hang out since he wasn’t my manager anymore. And then I did the most bold thing I have ever done. I asked him for his number. (This is something I will never let him live down.)
Will and I ended up having our first “date” a few weeks later. He came over to my apartment to watch the football game and a movie or two. It was great getting to know him more on a personal level. I found out that he had always had a crush on me as well. I was shocked. He had never given me an inkling that he felt that way. Being my manager, he just couldn’t do that. I was so happy to know that he had had the same feelings that I did. We hung out a few times over the next few weeks. Then we went on our first official date, dinner and a movie, at the beginning of December. We officially became a couple that night.
What comes after dating???
We moved in together in August 2010. It was pretty fast, but it was an opportunity that neither of us wanted to pass up. It was great living together and being together all the time. We dated for a little over two years before we got engaged. He proposed to me in one of my favorite places, where I volunteered. It was a big surprise.
Will and I were married a little over a year later. On Saturday, June 16, 2012, we were married at Meadowbrook Inn in Charlestown, RI. It was a wonderful day. We had great weather and were surrounded by our friends and family. I couldn’t have asked for a better way to become Will’s wife.
Will and I went to Orlando, Florida for our honeymoon. We spent a good number of days in Walt Disney World. If you know me, you know this is one of my favorite places in the world. I hadn’t been to Disney since I was a teenager, so it was wonderful getting to spend time there as as adult and with my new husband. We also did some fun non-Disney activities. I went on my very first ATV ride, which was way more fun that I had anticipated. And, we went for a trail ride (on horses). We had the best time and created a lot of great memories.
And the rest is history …
Will and I have come a long way since we started dating almost 10 years ago. Dating. Living together. Engagement. Marriage. Changing jobs. Moving. Pregnancy. Parenthood. It has been a wonderful journey so far. And there is no one I would rather be on this journey with than Will.
Check out some pictures of Will and I throughout the years.